Discipline Techniques: It's Time to Put "Time-Out" in Time-Out (Try This Instead!) by Matthew Suarez Pace LMFT

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6 years ago

Discipline Techniques: It's Time to Put "Time-Out" in Time-Out (Try This Instead!)

As the parent of a 10- and 8-year-old, there are plenty of frustrating moments. Times when kids get nasty and disrespectful, to each other or to their parents, can be particularly difficult. The age old and often relied upon ‘time-out’ can be a quick fix. Although it offers immediate relief for you as a parent, many experts have challenged its usefulness in shaping more desired behavior.

Instead, try to replace the ‘time out’ with something more creative that gives rather than takes away. Having the guilty party choose from various age-appropriate acts of kindness they can complete for the person they hurt.

  • clear the table for them
  • make their bed
  • draw them a picture
  • read them a book

It can be restorative and more effective in shaping your child's behavior!

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Donna John
Great idea, Matthew Suarez Pace ! Welcome to the tribe! Look forward to getting more parenting and relationship advice from you.
Elisa Schmitz
I love this! The idea of having them do something kind instead of taking something away is simply brilliant. Thank you for sharing, Matthew Suarez Pace , and welcome to 30Seconds. Looking forward to learning and growing with you!
Ann Marie Patitucci
Welcome to the tribe, Matthew Suarez Pace ! I love this tip, especially the idea of giving instead of taking away!
Christine Jones
This is awesome Matthew Suarez Pace ! The next time my boys are mean to their little sister I can't wait to see the look on their faces when I tell them to clear her plates:)
Kristan Wager
Great ideas!! Love that it instills a sense of actually building bridges between them. Welcome to the tribe! Matthew Suarez Pace LMFT

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